because no one is talking
and like, for someone like Ore to not be talking to you at this point is BAD
because he goes to sleep soon
so if he's not giving you a name or even asking for one at this point, then like, wtf is going on
I’m glad you finally messaged me
I know it’s probably too late
I do want to say that I felt kinda hurt by you today and I get you’ve been at work
But like, you really just weren’t there for me at all and I felt I needed to say something because I consider you someone I want to stay in touch with after this
Like, getting ghosted by someone who told me they wanted me to be their Jakey in this game when I know they were talking to everyone else made me feel shitty
But omg yeah, Ore asked me that IN A PUBLIC CHANNEL with Jiv and Saturn
And then got mad when I started spillin tea
Hence the “deleting messages” reprimand
Ore told me I needed to delete my messages and I was like uhhh we can’t do that
I know right? He’ll come to a different Survivor event I guess
But the whole thing’s muggy since I’m going with his ex (who introduced us but still, kinda weird)
And I also have another guy that I’m like, kind of dating but we haven’t discussed what we are yet so I’m just being messy
so I'm defintiely not besties haha
I just recently (this weekend) got promoted from bar friend only to outside of bar friend with him
and AND he started it by telling me his ex thought I was a cutie, so like, I'm considering that his blessing on the matter
enyasurvivor I’m gonna date the guy from NC I’ve been talking to, but be flirty Survivor frie...
Okay tea wait is NC the situationship
Would you do long distance?
Harp sounds fun, so people my age go?
yeah so I met the NC guy back in January at the Alley while he was on business and we've been talking since and I'm going there Memorial Day Weekend
At this point in my life, I would definitely do long distance because it's not like I have prospects in Boston at the moment for men
and yeah, harp is basically like, 21 and up but the most common ages is like, 25-40
enyasurvivor yeah so I met the NC guy back in January at the Alley while he was on business a...
Okay wait what’s the Alley! That’s so fun though I kinda love that!
I would never diss… because like I do long distance and have been doing it for a long time now
Boston… I’m fine with leaving MA rn
And the men here are just
The Alley is the gay bear bar in Boston, so probably not what you're looking for BUT everyone there is very friendly (too friendly sometimes) albeit quite older, like 40+
_andyroo_ I would never diss… because like I do long distance and have been doing it for a...
oh yeah?? How has it been? What's the distance
Also, surburban Boston gays are wayyy different from city gays. But overall, Boston gays have an attitude problem
The issue with Boston is that it's both transient and townie, so people are quick to leave while also being incredibly cliquey.
we're also a post-heteronormative city which, while it's great for gay rights, sucks for gay community because we have no real gay district. We're accepted at any bar. The closest we have is Dorchester and it's still not exactly a gay district
enyasurvivor The Alley is the gay bear bar in Boston, so probably not what you're looking for...
Ahhh definitely not up to my speed especially as like a young man who is not good at being gay in a city at bars because I don’t go out like ever to bars and I don’t have gay friends really lmao
enyasurvivor oh yeah?? How has it been? What's the distance
Is my first real relationship tbh, 9 months together and has been awesome! He lives in Maryland and I live in MA Suburbs and it’s been great! He came over to MA this weekend and I loved it
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_andyroo_ Is my first real relationship tbh, 9 months together and has been awesome! He li...
that's awesome! I'm glad things are going well. I find that a lot of people shit on long distance relationships, but so long as there's good communication it shouldn't matter
and especially where you're so young, I feel like you both will figure out the best place to land since you have fewer commitments than an older person
enyasurvivor that's awesome! I'm glad things are going well. I find that a lot of people sh...
We have good communication and he’s already asked me to move in with him but I was like…. Lemme finish out 2026 rn and we can revisit this in 2027 if that’s okay! I’m fine to move out of MA! It’s expensive af here but yeah it’s been hype
He has a lot of commitments and so do I but I feel like I have less to lose